Realities of Bar Life in Pattaya

The Truth Behind the Neon Glow

Pattaya is known worldwide for its bar life and nightlife — the flashing lights, the bustling bars, and the constant energy of Walking Street. But behind that glittering exterior lies a very different reality. As an author who has spent two decades living in Thailand and writing about its culture, I’ve tried to capture the truth of this lifestyle through fiction rooted in fact — especially in my Behind the Smile hepatology.

At the heart of it all are women like Lek, the central character of Daddy’s Hobby. She, like many bar girls in Pattaya, didn’t come to the city to chase fun and enjoy the bar life — she came to survive. Many left their rural villages in Isaan, ‘the north’, sometimes with a child to support and often with debt hanging over their heads. A job in a bar offers more money in a month than many can make in a year working the land or cleaning rooms in a hotel.

More Than Just a Job

Working in a bar in Pattaya is not a romantic escape. It’s hard, emotional work that demands a constant smile — hence the phrase “behind the smile.” These women are expected to be entertaining, accommodating, and endlessly cheerful. Some enjoy the social side of bar life, but many are simply doing what they must to feed their families.

The pressure is intense. Many customers don’t see the woman on the barstool — they see a fantasy. This can lead to misunderstandings, heartbreak, and in some cases, abuse. Add to that the language barrier, cultural differences, and the constant competition between women for paying customers, and you begin to understand the stress of bar life.

The Real Deal

Yes, some bar girls eventually fall in love and leave the scene. Some build better futures with the help of customers-turned-husbands. But these are the exceptions, not the rule. Many simply return to their village after years in Pattaya, older, wiser, and often emotionally bruised.

That’s why I wrote Daddy’s Hobby, An Exciting Future, and Maya – Illusion and the others. I wanted to explore what happens when someone like Lek decides she wants more than just to survive — she wants to thrive. And I wanted to show the reader the culture, pressures, and traditions that shape a woman’s choices in a place like Pattaya.

No Judgement — Just Truth

My books aren’t written to judge the women who work in the bars — far from it. They’re written to give them a voice. They are mothers, daughters, sisters — and in many cases, heroes in their own quiet way. The stories in Behind the Smile aim to respect that, without romanticising or condemning.

If you’ve ever wondered what bar life in Pattaya is really like — beyond the booze, the bright lights, and the bar fines — I hope my series offers an honest perspective. It’s not about exploitation or fantasy. It’s about survival, sacrifice, and sometimes, love.

📚 Start the journey today with Daddy’s Hobby — available worldwide and at Kinokuniya, Bangkok from late May 2025.

🔖 Read the first chapter here: Daddy’s Hobby, Ch. 1